Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.6 Lessons

After 15 months…

August 10, 2017 – 1:19pm, Sharjah, U.A.E.

Sa mga oras na ito, hindi ko alam kung ano ang nagdala sa mga daliri ko para isa-isang pindutin ang mga letra sa laptop at makabuo ng isang kwento ng katotohanan. Yung kwento ng totoong nangyari sa akin sa loob ng 15 months na 'yun.

I resigned from my longest work ever as contact center specialist in one BPO company.  Hindi naman secret sa public yung pag-punta ko dito sa U.A.E. I have been posting a lot on my social media accounts about my stay here. Like other OFW, nagbaka-sakali ako na kumita ng mas malaki lalo pa at meron na akong binabayaran na sariling bahay. Apart from that, I have been to a situation long time ago and I have also been longing to rebuild myself somewhere I have never been. So nung nagkaroon ng opportunity, I grabbed it kasi baka eto na yung matagal ko nang hinahanap.

Since then, I was so dependent of my parents. I had so many travels but this is the first time I'll be out of my comfort zone for a long period of time. I know when I decided to go here, marami akong maiiwan sa Pilipinas – family, friends, career, yung mga organizations where I am a volunteer, at lahat ng bagay na kino-consider kong part of my life. I was half-hearted but I still decided to go dahil walang kasama si Nanay at ang pamangkin kong si Adrhiane pagpunta dito. Besides, naisip ko, "malay mo swertehin ako, eh di jackpot!"

Life in a different country is really hard. Kailangan mong sumunod sa mga rules nila, mag-adjust, mag-adapt, makisabay. We call ourselves 'expatriates' or in Filipino layman's term 'dayo'. I was lucky enough that my biological sister and her husband are living here. I was guided and I must say I was able to gradually absorb the culture here. Pero kahit pa nandito sila, na-realize ko na mahirap pa rin kasi may sariling buhay din sila. I should learn how to stand alone. I should build my own life here in order to survive, and that was even harder.

Ang sabi ko bago ako magpunta dito, gusto kong work ay related sa course ko – which is teaching. Kaya lang, mailap ata ang swerte sa akin. Na-experience ko pa mag-exit sa Oman kung saan kasama ko yung maraming OFW na may iba't-ibang kwento. Yung iba sa kanila pinaasa lang ng company na bibigyan ng employment visa, yung iba naman niloko ng agency at itinakbo ang pera, maraming nanghihingi na lang ng tulong pinansyal sa mga kabayan na nag-exit din. Dahil sa experience ko na yun, mas na-realize ko na napaka-swerte ko pa rin dahil may pamilya ako dito na matatakbuhan. Kung wala siguro baka nabaliw na ako katulad ng iba.

It took me three months before I finally got a job. I was thankful enough na nakahanap ako ng work kahit hindi ito yung pinangarap kong trabaho dito. I worked as a secretary in one trading company nearby. But like anybody else, meron din akong saturation point. I know it's too early pero madali ako nagsawa sa work environment ko. I had friends at work and madali lang naman sana ang work ko, pero may mga forces na nakakapagpa-bigat ng trabaho. I tried ignoring, and actually I can still ignore, pero I decided to just leave.

More importantly, na-realize ko din na 'OMG! Matanda na ang parents ko, kung uubusin ko dito yung time na dapat kasama ko sila, that might be the biggest regret I will have for my entire life!' Nung pumunta ako dito, part sila ng dahilan kung bakit half-hearted ako. Pero di ko pinakinggan yung kalahati ng puso ko na nagsasabing 'hindi naman sila naghahangad ng sobrang gara na buhay. Nakaka-survive naman kayo basta't sama-sama.'

Kagaya ng palagi nating naririnig na kasabihan – 'Ang pera hindi natin yan kayang dalahin sa hukay!' So more than the money I can earn here (which I can actually earn din naman sa Pinas), mas pipiliin ko na makasama ang pamilya ko. I won't go much into details, but to sum it up, I decided to resign from my work and just go home after 5 months of service.

May mga nagsasabi na 'Sayang naman. Nandyan ka na din eh. Maraming gusto makapunta dyan pero ikaw bibitawan mo lang ng ganun.' Believe me, I told that to myself, too.

People may think I'm so impulsive, but of course I considered a lot of things before I decided to do that. Ihinanda ko na din yung sarili ko sa mga consequences na pwede ko harapin.

So far, I'm still waiting for my visa cancellation. Once done, I will immediately fly back to the Philippines. I know this is not yet the end and I'll be facing more when I go back to my comfort zone. Pero this time, iba na. I am not the same as I was when I left the Philippines few months ago.

Kapag naiisip ko yung pag-uwi ko nagpe-playback sa isip ko yung mga linya sa kantang "They Can't Take That Away From Me" ni Mariah Carey.

"They can say anything they want to say, try to bring me down but I will not allow anyone to succeed hanging clouds over me. And they can try hard to make me feel that I don't matter at all. But I refuse to falter in what I believe or lose faith in my dreams. Cause there's a light in me that shines brightly. They can try but they can't take that away from me."

May halong takot yung pag-uwi ko kasi I know for a fact na di natupad yung plan ko dito. Sabihin na nating 'hindi ako nagtagumpay sa journey ko dito'. Takot ako sa pwedeng isipin ng ibang tao sa akin or sa pinagdaanan ko. Part of me is saying 'okay lang yan! Wag mong isipin yung sasabihin ng iba dahil buhay mo yan!'

Pero na-realize ko din naman na…

"Success is not defined by never giving up to challenges. Sometimes, you have to let go and let the fate bring you to your success…"

Magsisimula ako ulit pag-uwi ko. And since I learned from my experience, I am looking forward to start again just right.

 

Love,

JG

 

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.4 Events, 3.0 Feature-of-the-day

R⚫️E⚫️S⚫️P⚫️E⚫️C⚫️T

Big word but means alot!

I saw this post from someone unknown in Twitter…


This statement is sarcastically true lalo na sa panahon ngayon ng eleksyon. Sabi nila ‘respect begets respect’. Do you show respect when you allow other people’s opinion to be expressed? Do you show disrespect when you react with someone else’s opinion? Respect is really a big word, to the point that it is hard to give and hard to receive. It is not imposed, nor gained.


Saw this post of TV host Bianca Gonzales yesterday and I must say that yes, maraming nagpopost ng grudges nila sa hindi nila iboboto at nanlalait pa ng opinyon ng iba sa mga iboboto nila. Nakakalungkot isipin pero totoo nga atang Philippines is at its dirtiest during election. Sinasabi nila na opinyon nila yun at dapat irespeto pero hindi ba sa sinasabi nila ay nagpapakita din sila ng hindi pagrespeto? Again, ‘respect begets respect’. Kung gusto mong irespeto ang opinyon mo, matuto ka din na irespeto ang opinyon ng iba. It is a two-way process and not just one. Alam nating hindi nawawala sa politika ang bashers. Ironically, kailangan pang siraan ang iba para maibenta ang manok nila. That’s a bad practice, pero hindi ba mas nakakapagpakita ng respeto kung iaangat mo na lang ang mga kandidato mo at hindi mo na sisiraan ang iba? We are talking about respect as freedom of expression in a positive way and not freedom of humiliating other people. Kung okay sayo ang kandidato mo, focus ka na lang dun, wag na mang-bash ng ibang kandidato para walang magrereact sa sinabi mo, at para wala nang argumentasyon. After all, both of what two parties expressed is just an opinion, and with opinion, nothing is wrong, so walang mananalo.

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.6 Lessons, 2.0 My Interest, 2.2 Travel and Adventure, 2.4 Music, 3.0 Feature-of-the-day

A Bucket of My Etceteras in 2016

Last year (2015) was indeed a good year for me. I got to experience so many things that I considered my ‘firsts’. Most of it were travel, adventure, activities that made my 2015 wonderful.

This year (2016), I must say is more special. It is my ‘silver year’ because I am turning 25 exactly next month (February 22, 2016). I am already in my first quarter of life. Though a lot of things did not fall into place the way I want it to be about 5-10 years ago, I have decided to just live my life as it is. Despite some of my plans were not fulfilled, (like having my own savings, starting to build my own two-storey house with atique, planning to get married, etc.) I could just simply go with the flow and enjoy. Yes, enjoy! It’s because of the principle called YOLO. You Only Live Once!

Since this is the 25th year of my existence, I have come up with 10 of the things in my bucket list for 2016 and etceteras.

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1. Experience surfing
I am not into swimming, but I am not afraid of water. I am courageous enough to go against the current of water flow. I’d like to try surfing and measure my strength in doing this. Good thing is we are going to Calaguas Island this February 6 & 7. One of the itinerary is going to Bagasbas Beach where we can experience surfing! So excited!

2. Buy DSLR camera
I am fond of taking pictures. I am a very sentimental person that I want to treasure and keep every special moment in my memory. I just use my 8MP camera phone most of the time, or sometimes, I use my 12MP digicam my sister gave me when taking photographs. Since my devices are now a little low-tech and not so Instagram worthy, I am planning to buy my own DSLR camera from my own money. Looking forward to this the soonest.

3. Enroll for a photography class
Since I am already planning to buy DSLR, next in my list is to enroll in a photography class. Why not be pro in photography? It’s a new line of interest, anyway.

4. Experience Panagbenga Festival
I love flowers, and nature, and cold weather, and serene place, and everything about Baguio. Since I am also planning to go to Baguio for my birthday celebration with Kimy (my favorite cousin) we decided to have it scheduled during Panagbenga Festival’s grand street parade and grand float parade. Another excitement!

5. Explore Vigan-Laoag-Pagudpud
This was initially my plan for my birthday celebration but one friend invited me for this tour on July. We decided to just go with them instead, so we can have more planned Ilocos adventure! Weeeh!

6. Enroll for Master’s Degree in Psychology/SPED
Psychology/SPED is my dream course, but due to some circumstances I was not able to take it up. Good thing I learned that I can take master’s degree with that specialization since it is somehow related to my course Bachelor in Secondary Education. I planned about it long time ago but I wasn’t able to pursue. I guess this year is the right time to pursue it!

7. Explore Batanes
One place I will never miss a chance to visit is the beauty of Batanes. Since the tour is pricey, I think after my July tour in Ilocos, I will focus on saving pennies for this tour. This will be the highlight tour of my year!

8. Watch KathNiel concert/show
Oh yes! I am a KathNiel fan and I am proud about it. They always make me smile everytime they show an effortless chemistry. They are inspiration for me. That even though I am not fully stable with my love life, I can still smile the way a man can make his woman smile. My goal is to have picture with them.

9. Run 10km for Color Manila
I used to run 3km for Color Manila in 2015. This time I would like to level up to 10k. I challenge myself to do this so I can also push my limit to be fit and healthy this time. I can do it!

10. Enroll for piano lesson
Another new line of interest – piano. I love music! I have good ear for music. In fact when I was just 7 years old, I was influenced by my uncle to gradually hit correct notes for a melody of a song in the keyboard. When I was in high school, I was also assigned to be the foundation of altos in the choir because according to my trainor, I have a good ear for music. I want to involve myself more to music. This means not only by singing, but also by playing instruments. Actually, this was also a plan long time ago but was not pursued because of many circumstances. Maybe this time I can pursue it. And if I learn to play piano, my goal is to use my talent in composing songs. Who knows I might be discovered! LOL

For final words…

We only live once. You only live once. Time is precious and we should keep into our minds that we should not just be contented with our routinary activities. As early as now, we should experience something new, something that we’ve never experienced before, something that we can still do for we still have means to do it. So when time comes that we can no longer have means to do everything, we can tell ourselves “I have no regrets! I did it!”

Love,

JG

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.6 Lessons

#NoteToSelf v.3.0

happiness

 

Time is precious. Make the most out of your time. Just imagine how many minutes of supposed-to-be happiness are wasted because of the time spent being disgusted. Okay! Okay! It’s not bad to mourn, be sad or disappointed once at a time. Be like that as long as you want, damn! (LOL) There is always a room for sadness in our EQ (emotional quotient). But whenever you think about it, just look back or be reminded of this quote above. It would be better to spend time being happy than being sad. Back quoting, “Time is precious” so spend it wisely.

 

Love,

JG.

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.6 Lessons

#NoteToSelf v.2.0

Sagada“Live your life to the fullest…”assenaj22

This might be said a million times by everybody. I personally told this to myself several times, and I must say I never get tired of that. This is a reminder not only for me but for everyone that life is short. There is so much in life that is unexpected, like love, peace, war, hope and even death. We do not know until when can we live our life.

Reminiscing my childhood days, I remember when I am asked to answer a slam note, I used to put in my motto “Live your life as if it is your last day.” I was thinking if this is being pessimist, but I guess it is just a motivation for me to do and choose to experience the best everyday.

Having said this, this will probably be my vision for 2016. I aim to live my life to the fullest this year and the upcoming years.

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.6 Lessons, 3.0 Feature-of-the-day

16 Baggages This 2016

Happy New Year! Since the year had just started, allow me to make some #hugot.

Why ‘baggages’? Baggages are often referred to something that is being carried with heavy weight. Meron po talagang mga bagay na kahit mabigat na, mahirap dalahin, hindi komportable, pipiliin parin nating baunin dahil alam nating kakailanganin natin in the future. Sabi sa pelikulang “That Thing Called Tadhana”, wag mong dalhin lahat. Bukod sa mabibigatan ka lang, hindi mo naman magagamit yan lahat for sure. At higit sa lahat, walang permanente, mas maganda kung may ititira ka para sa sarili mo para kung sakaling babalik ka, alam mong hindi pa sila ubos. Tama naman na wag mong dalhin lahat, okay lang sigurong magdala ka ng marami, pero siguruhin mong yung dala mo ay kakailanganin mo lahat. Kasi kung may bitbit kang walang saysay, sinayang mo lang ang effort mo sa pagbibitbit ng mabigat.

This 2016, I picked some of the lessons I have learned from the previous year and I think is useful for the current year.

1. Choose what’s right. This means even if it takes pain. Just put into your mind that you did the right thing even though it hurts.

2. Be brave. Walang mangyayari kung papangunahan tayo ng takot sa mga decision natin. Tiwala lang.

3. Do all your best so you won’t regret. The biggest regret we may have in our life is not for the wrong things we’ve done but for the things we did not do.

4. Save small but frequently. If you cannot have bulk savings, then just do it little by little several times.

5. Reward yourself. At least every pay day, buy something you really like or treat yourself to pamper your day. After all, it’s just a payback for your hardwork. This will motivate you more doing your best.

6. Family first. Bago ka maging mabuti sa ibang tao, sa pamilya mo muna. There’s no regret if you put your family as your first priority, kasi di ka nila iiwan.

7. Do something new everyday. This will boost excitement and you’ll end up realizing that you lived life to the fullest.

8. Be courteous. Respect begets respect. If you want to be respected, do the same way to others, whatever level they may be.

9. Take a deep breath. This is especially when you’re aggravated. Patience is a key to peace.

10. Don’t make decisions when you’re upset. Your emotion might be misleading that would result to permanent decision you wouldn’t like in the long run.

11. Smile as often as you can. It only requires minimal effort. It also attracts good vibes.

12. Be childish. Not to the point that you will act immature. This means remembering that simple things can already cause happiness. Make your happiness as shallow as it can be.

13. Have some travel. Learning cannot be obtained from the books or websites we read. Life can be best learned in the streets where first-hand experience happen.

14. Set your goals. Mabilis mong makikita yung landas na dapat mong tahakin pag alam mo kung saan mo gusto pumunta.

15. Patiently wait for the right one. It might take days, weeks, months, years. Tiwala lang. What’s meant to be will always find a way.

16. Love does not hurt. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone (especially the bitter ones) gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.

Madami pa sana akong gustong isama. Pero gaya nga ng literal na bagahe, mahihirapan lang din ako kung lahat dadalhin ko. Kaya pinili ko na lang yung iilan na siguradong magagamit ko. Hindi na ako na-over baggage, meron pang natirang space para sa mga mae-encounter ko in my next journey. Happy new year everyone!

Love,

JG

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.1 Family, 1.2 Friends, 1.4 Events, 1.6 Lessons, 2.0 My Interest, 2.2 Travel and Adventure, 3.0 Feature-of-the-day

Page 365 of 365: A bid of goodbye to 2015

Tic-toc-tic-toc! Time is almost running and in less than an hour, fire crackers will fill the dark sky, loud noises will dominate the silence of the night and people will exchange greetings of “Happy New Year!”.

Today is the last day of 2015. My year was indeed a roller coaster ride. There are many ups and downs, but I must say that as a person born in a year of a sheep/goat, ups have dominated my year! Thank God for that… 🙂

Here are some of the highlights of my 2015:

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February 28, 2015 – before my birth month ends, I got to experience for the first time going out of the country. Together with my cousin “Ate Jhem”, I flew to Singapore… It is also my first time to ride an airplane. It was a great experience seeing the famous Merlion Park, Sentosa Island, Marina Bay, Clarke Quay, Bugis (China Town), Gardens by the Bay, Universal Studios and a lot more! It was even greater when on our Day 4 (March 3, 2015) my sister “Ate Mafie” and my brother-in-law Kuya Riane flew from Dubai to Singapore also. Though the whole trip’s expenses is quite pricey, I must say it was worth it! Thanks to our sponsor also, our family friend “Ate Leony” and “Kuya Rey” our wanderlust was made possible.

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April 9-18, 2015– 10th Camp Journey 2015 held in Luisiana, Laguna… I have been part of this camp for almost a decade but this year is special because it is my first time to be one of the camp’s activity coordinator. It was a big responsibility and honestly, a very tiring task. However, at the end of the day, when I realize that all activities went well, I can say that all the efforts are worth it!

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May 9, 2015 – We have been bonding in the office, after work or on weekends, but I consider this highlight of my year because it is my first out-of-town with my office mates/friends. We spent the whole day just eating, singing, swimming, chatting and laughing hard! Yeah! That’s what I like about this group. I got to forget momentarily my problems because they make me laugh hard. As in LOL.

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July 4, 2015 – with almost same group of people who make me laugh hard. We went to Enchanted Kingdom. Been there lots of times but being with them is another highlight of my year. Again, laugh out loud! My dizziness because of the extreme rides fade away…

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August 14, 2015 – I lauched my first ever blogsite, where you are right now, http://www.janessagrace.wordpress.com which I entitled “Love, JG: A window to my soul…” This is my way of applying my passion in writing and at the same time sharing thoughts which are too long if posted in Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. I’m also experimenting of some skins of my blogsite depending on my mood. I used cherry blossom theme when I started it because I feel like it’s a fresh start for my new business. Now, it is Kiltepan sunrise theme because I am just a peaceful spirit now, especially in my private life.

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October 18, 2015 – My Ate Mafie and Kuya Johncel went home for vacation from work in Dubai. This is a highlight not only for me but for the rest of my family. For the first time after few years, we became complete again – Nanay Medy, Ate Mafie, Kuya Johncel and Irish. Though Tatay Epi is not physically present, we know he’s just there. So many simple yet bountiful bondings happened. We celebrated Nanay’s 58th birthday, All Saints’ Day and Irish’ 8th birthday together.

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November 28, 2015 – Sagada Adventure! I tried to find my forever in Sagada. It was indeed a great Thanksgiving vacation! A must-comeback experience! The trekking and most especially the caving and spelunking! Up until now when I remember the tour, I must say I am still in awe! I got to meet new friends, too. What made it more special is that because of the serenity in the place, I got to realize and learn a lot of things. Thank God I got to experience it this year.

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December 1, 2015 – before the year ends, another blessing came into our life. And that is no other than my nephew, Adrhiane. That was my first time seeing him, but he was actually born November 27. That was the time I travelled going to Sagada. I was a bit sad because I did not see him in his Day 1. But all the sadness fade away when I saw him in his Day 4. I really like babies! They are reminders that life is simple and we should not worry too much. They are stress relievers with just their innocent smile or tiny hummings! Thank God for him!

Yes, 2015 is ending today. But we have to remember the famous quote given by many speakers of seminars and talks about hope – “when a page of a book ends, there is another chapter to open.” Life is like a book with eternal stories. There are really ups and downs in life, but we should learn to live with it. Everyday is a challenge you have to survive.

Love,

JG

Posted in 2.0 My Interest, 2.4 Music

NP: Let’s Stay Together

Let’s, oughta stay together
Loving you, whether, whether times are
Good or bad, happy or sad

Points to Ponder:

Unconditional love – two words to summarize the whole song. Love asks no condition. When we love, we should be ready to experience not only happiness but also sadness. Storm, tsunami, earthquake, or other calamities are natural phenomenon. They really happen. We do not know when, where or who will be affected. It is unpredictable. And so as in love, people who are in love ought to experience also different calamities in form of problems or misunderstandings. These are just challenges and survival is the only answer. For two individuals who are feeling mutually in love, they should stay together whether in good or bad times.

Love,

JG

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.5 Love, 1.6 Lessons, 3.0 Feature-of-the-day

#SelfCreation: “Bawat Pighati”

“Bawat Pighati”
By: JGEC

Hindi na naman makatulog
Pinipilit ipikit ang mata
Ngunit bawat segundo ika’y nakikita
Bakit ba sa’yo ay nahulog
Umibig, umasa at nasaktan
Ngunit sa huli, ikaw din pala’y lilisan

Sinikap maihakbang ang paa
Makaahon lang sa pagkadapa
Buong akala’y nakatayo na
Bakit ngayon ako’y nanghihina

Tanggap ko na ang tadhana
Di tayo para sa isa’t isa
Ikaw nga ay malaya na
Pero ngayon ako’y nagdurusa

Alam kong dapat nang umiwas
Pagkat tayo’y masasaktan lamang
Ngunit heto ako at tulala sa parang
Di alam kung paano bukas
Puso ko ba’y aking didiktahan
Ngunit sa huli, ikaw pa rin ang kailangan

Susubukan ko na lang magpanggap
Hanggang sa ako ay makangiti
Bubuo ng sariling pangarap
Titiisin ang bawat pighati

Love,

JG

Posted in 1.0 Life Connect, 1.5 Love, 1.6 Lessons

#NoteToSelf v.1.0

Moon

A friend once told me that “moon” is the only heavenly body that controls a person’s emotion. Just like how it controls the tides, and since our body is composed of 79% water, full moon, new moon, crescent moon or any other forms of moon has control over water which is also big part of earth. The moon is indeed one of the most magical creation on earth.

In life, we tend to fast forward events because we are thinking that it could lead us to something we are so much excited about. Sometimes, because of our eagerness to reach the peak of our excitement, we tend to forget the essence of our principles. Just like for “singles”, they are excited for their future special someone, and here comes the birth of “hopeless romantic”. Just like what Christina Aguilerra said in one of her songs, “Nobody wants to be lonely”.

Perhaps for some people, they just see the moon as something in the sky that lightens our dark night, but more to that, it can give us serenity and it can calm us as much as it controls body of water. So when you feel lonely at night, just always remember that you are not alone in this world and maybe someone, somewhere, someday the other person looking at the moon on the other side will be the one destined for you.